Monday, July 2, 2012

My Top 5 Wedding Pet Peeves

Snarky post alert. This is two days too late. I wanted to post it in June, traditionally wedding month (although it's been edged out by December in the Philippines) but, er, life got in the way. Anyhoo, let me present: my top five wedding pet peeves:

1. People who ask if they can bring a +1, even when the invitation indicates the number of seats allotted. Wedding-goers, please believe me when I say that the bride and groom thought long and hard about their guest list. I'll say what they're probably too polite to say: "There are 300 other people that rank higher on my priority list and that I'd rather invite before that guy you're 'kind of dating.'" (Wedding etiquette dictates that the only time it's OK to ask is if you're married to your +1.)

2. People who skip the church ceremony because they're tamad. Come on. It's the most important part!

3. Drill sergeant wedding coordinators. I don't like being barked at to get in line, or being unceremoniously herded into a venue. I'm all for being efficient, but efficient doesn't mean rude. There's a polite way to do it.

4. People who talk incessantly during mass. And they don't even try to keep their voices down! I know this might be the first time you and your seatmates are seeing each other since high school, but save the chit-chat for the reception. It's a wedding, not a reunion. It's still supposed to be a solemn affair.

5. And my biggest pet peeve of all: girls who wear white to other girls' weddings. Good grief, woman. Out of all the colors to choose from, why would you decide to wear the bride's color on her day? Sure, that form-fitting white dress flatters you in all the right ways, but get over yourself.  Your  name is not Pippa Middleton. It's someone else's color and someone else's day.

And while this isn't really a pet peeve, I can kind of understand why this writer believes that writing your own vows is a bad idea. It's a pretty entertaining read.

Got any wedding pet peeves of your own? Do share!

14 comments:

  1. Love the link! That's why we did the traditional vows. You don't mess with perfection!

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  2. My pet peeves:
    1. Wedding invitations that ask for money.
    2. People who don't RSVP.
    3. People who complain about the food or where they're seated.
    4. The bride who chooses ugly dresses for her bridesmaids because she wants to be the best-dressed girl at the altar.

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  3. Girls wearing white. I swear, do they NOT know?!? Just saw a photo of this on Facebook. Seriously, woman! :P

    People who don't really make an effort to follow the dress code lalo na kung close friends ng couple (e.g., faded jeans, t-shirt). Kinda annoying. As long as there's effort to look formal-ish, fine, pwede na.

    Entourage people who don't stick to the motif or give in to the bride's wishes. I'm like, it's her day, let's just do what she wants. :P

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  4. O__O i didn't know that some people just go straight to the reception. that's rude.

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  5. ugh. #5. seriously. I don't think some people know this rule. My sister in law actually had us bridesmaids and her mother and mother in law wear cream!! So then when it came around to my wedding and I told my family that I was having a formal wedding and everyone would be in black and white, they thought they should look for white dresses.. I had to set them straight right away and told them I'd be only one in white! (with white shirts under the tuxes for the guys) but yeah they were confused and I told them NO one but the bride should be in white! They acted all offended! It was drama.

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  6. People who take sooo much time in getting up on the altar for the picture-taking. Hello! We're getting hungry na so fasterrrr! Haha

    Thank God we didn't have the time (literally!) to write our own vows and both decided to wing it... :)

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  7. We didn't write our own vows partly because of the reasons in the link (I prefer my vows and proposals to be done in private) and partly because I didn't want the added pressure. I write for a living so people would have had high expectations! Haha

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    1. Ya, people were expecting us to write our own vows too because we're both writers. We didn't want that pressure and, like I said, the traditional vows are already perfect!

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  8. Or for #5, girls who upstages the bride with their dresses.. :P But I think it's okay to align your dress' color with the wedding motif. :)

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    1. I think I try not to follow the motif kasi baka mapagmalan akong entourage. Haha

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  9. nice posting.. thanks for sharing.

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  10. Asking for money in invitations! I don't care how cute the poem is, it's still tacky in my book.

    Oh, and being made to wait a long time for reception to start and there's no cocktail food.

    ~Dea
    http://deaguwapa.com

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  11. emcees trying so hard to do stand up, nawawala na yung serene, magical vibe nung wedding and reception :(

    I know some also who wear black sa wedding proper! Gosh! Burol? :o

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    1. I think I've worn black to a wedding, but I made sure to ask the bride first if it was OK.:)

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