Saturday, July 31, 2010

Date Night

Hamil and I are both pretty busy--aside from working full time, we both have sports to keep us occupied: I have disc, and he has basketball and mixed martial arts, and each of these entails time allotted for training and tournaments. We also have fairly active social lives (meaning, we meet up with friends quite often). Plus, I always make sure I see my mom at least once a week.


"Til death do us part" doesn't mean we're joined at the hip. P.S. Check out my hair bling!

One of my bridesmaids, while giving her speech at my wedding, said that one of the best things about me and Hamil as a couple is that we're devoted to each other but we give each other space. We're still our own persons outside of being a couple. And a number of other people have also noticed it over the years--not everyone understands it, but it's a setup that totally works for us. I'm the type of girl who needs some breathing room. Besides, we have more interesting conversations because we have other things going on in our lives that we get to tell each other about.

When my husband took his masters a few years ago, we had to find a way to spend more time with each other--aside from going to class, he had projects and papers to submit, case studies to review. We felt that weekends weren't enough to nurture our relationship; we needed another regular day when we could surely see each other. He normally didn't have classes on Wednesday, so that became the default day. Even my co-workers knew that Wednesday meant I would be getting uninterrupted time with the love of my life.

We didn't do anything particularly special; he or I would come over, and we would have dinner, and just watch TV and talk all night. He finished his masters, years went by, and Wednesday remained our regular date night. To this day, even as we're living together, Wednesday is still date night--when I have to work on Wednesday night, or something really important comes up, we go over our schedules and figure out when date night would be for that week. It's cool that some of my couple friends have told me that they were inspired to have their own date nights because of us!

I highly recommend it. It doesn't have to be anything spectacular--a fancy restaurant is nice, but a weekly splurge isn't realistic. Hamil and I often do just really normal, basic stuff. Sometimes we go to a favorite restaurant, or go out for a drink, or catch a movie, or go on a run together, or do yoga together, or go on a coffee shop date where he and I both bring books, and just sit together and read and talk in (you guessed it) a coffee shop. Other times, we just stay home; I cook, we watch TV or a DVD, or stay in bed and talk and read.

It's always a treat just to spend time with my darling husband, whatever it is we're doing. If you're with someone whose company you truly enjoy, then you're bound to have fun, no matter how mundane the date seems to be.

Friday, July 30, 2010

My Baby Is Out!

I've been waiting months, and the day has finally come. My first official issue as acting editor in chief of Good Housekeeping Philippines is out now!


It's our money special, so we've got quite a few features on cutting costs. I especially love the "Live on Less" story, where we feature five families and how and why they cut back on spending. I originally thought this would be a super light-hearted tip-filled article. But when I read the draft, I was just so moved. The families' stories are so varied, some are so heart-warming, that I felt I got a better article than I had hoped for!

There's also a feature on making Facebook safe for your kids (and you!). Facebook privacy is such a hot topic now--did you hear about the dude who collated a third of Facebook's user info? Scary, right? Our story, by the Third World Nerd, can help you keep some semblance of privacy intact in the Age of FB.

We've also got tips to exteeend your beauty treatments (so you'll end up spending less), and a budget-friendly fashion tactic that even showbiz people use. There are lots of other stories in there, and all for just P100! I'm not kidding. In the words of our creative director, Carlo Vergara, "Mas mura pa sa sine!" ("It's cheaper than a movie!")

So you can stop reading now, and head out to your nearest bookstore, newsstand, or supermarket, and grab a copy!:)

I Won! I Won! Part 3!

OK, not as major as a vacuum cleaner or a ref. But I didn't have one of these things so it was still pretty cool that I won this at a recent HSBC event...


Black tube top and bag from People are People, jeans from Bayo, super cute jacket by Kimono at Karimadon, necklace was my grandmother's. Photo by Hannah Dormido.

A fondue set.:) Time to buy some chocolate, marshmallows, and fruit! Fondue party, anyone?

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

My Past Life


At the SGV Alumni Homecoming with Miss Marlu and the "S" in "SGV," Washington SyCip

People are normally surprised when they find out that I used to work at SGV (a member practice of Ernst & Young), a professional services firm known mostly for its audit services. When people ask me how I ended up with the Warriors, my ultimate team, and I reply that I used to work with them, I get this look of bewilderment. Shock, even. Before they even verbalize their first question, I already say, "No, I'm not an accountant." Then their faces relax, assured that all is right with the world again. I don't know what it is about me that makes people think I can't possibly be an accountant. (And save the theories--I think I'd rather not know!)

For the record, I used to work with SGV's Marketing and Communications department as a Market Circle editor, so it's not like I made a huge leap. I used to handle the company newsletters (both online and print), edit management letters, help prepare proposals and presentations, write letters and speeches, and pretty much anything else that had to do with writing and editing. I also taught business communication, which meant new hires (and there were truckloads of 'em) had to endure a horrid training day with me. (A teammate remembers me as "Miss Tish.") There was the rare occasion when I had to accompany a foreign guest's wife on a sightseeing tour or shopping trip (awesome!) and that one time I had to be the "trophy girl" at an awards thing (embarrassing!). I was also a regular fixture at the in-office gym, an event planner, program emcee, and choreographer!

Me (white top, black pencil skirt, black necklace) with some of the Marketing and HR girls at my birthday merienda, back when my skin was ten shades lighter (pre-disc), and my hair was three shades darker!

Working in SGV proved to me that God has a sense of humor. I tailored my pre-work life so that I wouldn't end up working an 8-to-5 desk job, and I ended up at possibly the most corporate-y office of all. (I had to find ways to make the strict business attire work. I was probably the only girl in the whole office with a powder blue suit. And I had a bunch of killer, non-open-toe heels!) Ever since I was a kid, I knew I was more of a words person than a numbers person, so I figured I would have a career that involved writing. I took up Communication in college, interned at a weekly magazine, and contributed articles here and there. And then God, chuckling at all my careful planning, decided to pick me up and plunk me down in SGV. Then He watched as the live sitcom started rolling!

I'll admit, I was resistant at first. I went for the job because I heard wonderful things about SGV's training, and I was looking into the possibility of building a career in corporate comm. And, well, the other offer I had prior to this one was to work at a daily newspaper, and I couldn't imagine that kind of life for myself. (No holidays? No thank you.) But I honestly didn't think I would stay very long. Maybe six months. A year, tops. About a week into the job, the premier fashion magazine in the country called and asked if I was interested in the editorial assistant position. I decided not to go for it; I felt I had already made a commitment to SGV, and that it was poor form to up and leave right after I was hired. Noble shmoble--I cried my eyes out right after I said no!

My direct supervisor in Marketing was Miss Vicky, one of the best bosses you could ever have, one of the loveliest women you will ever meet. We were at odds at first--she was extremely frustrated with me because I was an incredibly stubborn newbie. Thinking back, I am absolutely appalled at my attitude during that time. I saw SGV as a very temporary thing, a waiting shed til a bus to a better place--a place where I felt like I belonged--came along. To use a couple of cliches, I guess I was the odd one out, I kind of stuck out like a sore thumb. (Hello? Powder blue suit!) The magazine bus came and went, but there I remained in that shed. And perhaps, that made me resent my job for some time.


With the Volleybelles, the volleyball team made up of girls from CBS

I don't know exactly when it was that I started to like or even--dare I say it?--love SGV. As I grew closer to my group, work became enjoyable, if not bearable (on really bad days). I bonded with my fellow editors, laughed with the artists (to know the Bigotes is to love them), and got close to the events group (one of them, Queenie, is my kumare--her son is my godson). And the work...well, while it wasn't what I would call a dream job, it sure taught me A LOT. Like how to spew out a brochure in a week. And how to deal with different personalities and temperaments. And that you don't say "trainings." (It's "training sessions" or "training programs" or "training days" or whatever else is applicable.) Miss Vicky became my grammar guru, and sort of like a second mother. Miss Marlu, our department head, demonstrated what it was like to be a woman with balls. (Something I'm trying to become, given the sink-or-swim nature of my current job. Dem balls will definitely keep me afloat!) The girls in my department became the sisters I never had. And MC4--the market circle where I was assigned--became the birthplace of the Ultimate Warriors, my beloved ultimate team.

It was 2005, and the SGV Sportsfest was introducing a new sport--ultimate. Back then, it was known to us as "Frisbee." We later learned that Frisbee is a brand of the disc, so calling the sport "Frisbee" is akin to calling toothpaste "Colgate," or photocopying "Xerox." Marketing's umbrella group, CBS (I forget what it stands for--it's all support services), combined with my market circle, MC4, to form one team.

Maybe it was because CBS was more interested in basketball or volleyball, or because ultimate was a virtually unheard-of sport, or because I was already comfortable with MC4--arguably the most laidback, most fun MC (their Christmas parties were always rockin'!)--but I ended up being the only one from CBS to join the first ultimate training session. I attended a couple more training sessions but wasn't able to join the sportsfest because Real Living came calling. The bus I was waiting for had finally come. And that's when my life in the magazine industry began.

If at first, I had bawled over my decision to stay in SGV, this time I bawled at the thought of leaving. I had been with the company for two-and-a-half years, and there were ups and downs for sure, days when I just didn't have the will to get out of bed. But at that time, I loved where I was. I had gotten the hang of my job (yes, it took me that long) and was so used to working with this harmonious, easygoing group of people that leaving it behind was heartbreaking. But someone pointed out that it was the best time to leave; I was making my exit on a high note, with no bitterness, and with a lot of fond memories and lifelong friends.


My dear friends from SGV at our wedding. I hear Miss Marlu (lady beside me) even helped out at the registration table--we really can't help ourselves, huh? Darling Addie isn't in the photo because she was busy running around as our coordinator!*

I may have taken a circuitous route to magazines, but I believe that SGV made it possible for me to get where I am now. The work ethic, efficiency, and attention to detail I developed at my first real job translated well into my managing editor position. And, well, that led to greater things. So yeah, God does have a sense of humor. You just have to trust that He knows exactly what He's doing.


*I know, I'm horrible for putting a friend to work during my wedding. But I think she did get clients after our wedding was featured in Martha Stewart Weddings! (If you're interested in checking it out, it's still in stands til September!)

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Work Outfit

I work in media, so the dress code isn't very strict. In fact, it's pretty much anything goes, so people even come to work in flipflops. (The Preview girls wouldn't be caught dead in flipflops though! The girls are always dressed to the nines. It's a daily fashion show!) So coming to work in jeans is no big deal.


Top from Italy; blazer from Maldita; pants from Pam Q; shoes by Parisian; necklace from Platinum Mall (Bangkok, Thailand); watch by Swatch; lipstick by Nars, retouched with Avon lipstick in Ruby Red

Today, I dug up a striped halter that I had never worn before. It was given to me years ago by a friend, and it's really cute, but I tend to veer away from form-fitting things. My main problem with this top was that if I pulled it down, the neckline showed a little too much chest; but if I pulled the straps up to cover my chest, the bottom would end at an awkward part of my torso.

I don't know why it took me so long to figure out that all I needed to do was layer. This morning, I really wished I had an oversized blazer (I'm so tiny that I look ridiculous in my husband's jackets)--I would've worn it over the halter together with skinny jeans. But since I didn't have a big blazer, I decided to wear a tiny one (leftover from my corporate days), and put the top and coverup together with some loose, flared pants. These pants have such a hippie vibe--I can't wear 'em with a retro top because I would look like I was four decades late to Woodstock. Almost every time I wear them, someone asks me if they're custom made. They're actually from my stylist friend Pam Q. They didn't fit her well, so she passed them over to me. I had 'em altered a bit.

I wanted a pop of red, and dug up a long red necklace I got from Bangkok. It was a tad too long so I removed a section of it. I also had really red lips earlier in the day--something I hardly do, but for some weird reason, I felt like I could pull it off today. I decided to put my hair up in a high, sleek ponytail. With the red lips and sort of plunging neckline, loose wavy hair would've looked too vavavoom-y. I had to take public transportation today so it was a look I was keen to avoid.

Lastly, I needed chunky shoes that wouldn't be overwhelmed by the wide-legged pants. They're not so seen in this photo, but I wore black shoes with thick wooden heels (shown in this post).

This photo was taken at one corner of my work area. I didn't want to ask anyone to take my picture, so I set it on timer--hence the weird angle, and hence the massive leg up front. To my left is a vase with leaves, and a framed photo of me and my husband on our wedding day (items from my previous desk). Beneath the table are plastic tubs filled with magazines. Behind me is a magnetic board with old event invitations (I've since replaced them with an updated batch). I'm still in the process of spiffing up my area, but will be sure to post pics once I'm done.

Friday, July 23, 2010

Payless in Manila

And I don't mean the noodles! Seriously, some editors thought I was on my way to a noodle event!

Anyhoo, after the madness of the Forever 21 opening (hadn't heard so much buzz since the drone of the vuvuzela), another American retailer is coming to town. Footwear store Payless Shoesource is opening in Manila! At yesterday's press event, we were given a sneak peak at the stuff on offer...


Casual footwear for the ladies


Shoes designed by Christian Siriano of Project Runway fame; there were also shoes by Isabel Toledo on display.


I was drawn to these laser-cut cuties!


A little somethin' for the men...


...and the kiddies!

Our worry was that, given the markup and everything, the shoes would all end up being Paymore. But Store Specialists (the group that brought Payless in) was thankfully able to keep prices down--flats, like the lime green and black ones in the first photo, go for as low as P795 (about $18). There are also these flat, calf-high boots for just P1,400 (a little over $30)! The more detailed little booties with heels are a bit over two grand ($45), but that's about as pricey as it gets. I hear the men's shoes don't go over P1,800 ($40)--and as anyone who's ever shopped for or with a man will tell ya, that's pretty decent for men's footwear! (Or maybe my husband just has expensive taste. Hmmm.)

The first store is opening at Festival Mall on the 28th if I'm not mistaken, with at least seven more stores set to open this year. For the uninitiated, Payless isn't a single shoe brand, but a carrier of several brands--and if the local stores will be anything like the stores in the US, all shoe sizes of a style will be stacked one on top of the other in their boxes. Sorta like a self-service shoe buffet! I think I'll wait for a more accessible branch to open though.

Thursday, July 22, 2010

True Blue

Just wanted to share this cute little number I found online. Hamil and I gave it as a gift at that recent baby shower. A little backgrounder: The dad is a true-blue Atenean, and I'm willing to bet a million pesoses that it's Ateneo or bust for his little Aaron Matthew. So anyway, the gift...



The other boys at the baby shower--all Ateneans--already said they wanted the same gift for their own babies! Funny because one of them isn't even married yet. Har.

I found this cutie at The Urban Baby online shop. Since I was doing some last-minute shopping, I was worried that they wouldn't be able to ship on time. But they were nice enough to deliver right to my office! There are also onesies for future Lasalistas and Iskolars ng Bayan. Prices don't seem to be updated (at least not for this item), but the price diff isn't that big. Just make sure to clarify with them first to avoid confusion.

Googoo-go Ateneo!:D